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What We Believe & Teach

Another way that many of us have confessed what we believe and teach has been around for 500 years.  The words below have stood the test of time and many of us find deep, durable help in knowing them by heart.  They are part of our “field guide for daily life” which Luther wrote for the family to use at home and congregations to use when they gather, The Small Catechism.

We believe in God, the father almighty. We believe that God has created us and all that exists, that he has given us and still preserves our body and soul, eyes and ears, reason and all our senses, together with food and clothing, home and family, and all our property. Every day he provides abundantly for all the needs of our life. He protects us from all danger and guards and keeps us from every evil. He does this purely out of fatherly and divine goodness and mercy, though we do not deserve it. Therefore we ought to thank, praise, serve, and obey him. This is most certainly true!

We believe in Jesus Christ, his only Son, our Lord. We believe that Jesus Christ — true God, begotten of the Father from eternity, and also true man, born of the Virgin Mary — is our Lord. He has redeemed us,  lost and condemned creatures, and has freed us from sin, death, and the power of the devil, not with silver and gold, but with his holy and precious blood and his innocent suffering and death. He has done all this in order that we might be his own, live under him in his kingdom, and serve him in everlasting righteousness, innocence, and blessedness, even as he is risen from the dead and lives and reigns for all eternity. This is most certainly true!

We believe in the Holy Spirit. We believe that we cannot by our own reason or strength believe in Jesus Christ our Lord or come to him; but the Holy Spirit has called us through the Gospel, enlightened us with his gifts, and sanctified and preserved us in the true faith. In the same way, he calls, gathers, enlightens, and sanctifies the whole Christian church on earth, and preserves it in unity with Jesus Christ in the one true faith. In this Christian church, he daily forgives abundantly all our sins and the sins of all believers. At the last day, he will raise us and all the dead and will grant everlasting life to all who believe in Christ. This is most certainly true!

Learn More

This course focuses on what we believe & teach, on our heritage & history, on prayer, and on opportunities to connect and grow. Please bring your questions, as this is an opportunity for you to learn more about Jesus Christ, the Christian faith, and our congregation!  The course is our “New Member” course taught by Pastor Paul Owens and lay leaders.

If you are not yet baptized or not in the habit of worshipping the Lord each week, here’s one thing we know when it comes to change: sometimes folks “think” their way into new behavior…more often they “behave their way into new thinking”.  When you follow Jesus, you’ll notice him changing your habits, your head…and your heart. 

Jesus saw them following and asked, “What do you want?” They said, “Teacher, where are you staying?”  “Come,” he replied, “and you will see.”

 - John 1.38-39

Then Jesus came to them and said, “All authority in heaven and on earth has been given to me. 19 Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, 20 and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you. And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age.”

- Matthew 28.18-20

If you have any questions, please call the church office at (830) 625-9191

Habits of a Disciple

Time: Relationships require time.  Disciples spend time with Jesus.  For disciples of Jesus, the most important time spent with the Lord is weekly worship.  For us, the purpose of worship is to hear God speak to us through his Word and to call on him in prayer, praise, and thanksgiving. In the Bible, God has a lot to say about the first priority of spending this time with him.  Just some of what he says includes: “remember the Sabbath day and keep it holy.” (Exodus 20.8-10); “My sheep hear my voice and follow me”(John 10.1-15).  To worship is to be gathered by God to hear his word…to not hear his word is a famine of the word…and famine leads to death. Our relationship with God also then births and defines our relationship with each other.  Disciples spend time with Jesus… and with each other.  Many Christians call this…

Fellowship.  This was a core value for the early Christian congregations (see Acts 2.42). Martin Luther described the “mutual consolation and conversation of the brethren” as almost a third sacrament, he held it in such high regard and necessity (sermon “On the Blessed Sacrament on the Holy and True Body of Christ, And the Brotherhoods” 1519, LW vol. 35). Far from “gossip & a good time,” fellowship is rooted in our gospel mission and is Christians demonstrating true care and prayer for one another. 

Communication: Disciples listen to and speak with the Lord. The primary way this happens is throughreading the Bible and praying daily (Deut 6.4-9; 8.3; Matthew 4.4, John 8.31ff; Acts 2.4, I Thessalonians 5.17) If you are the head of your household, it is your calling to teach your family how to read the Bible and pray… and how to talk with each other. No one else can fulfill this responsibility for you, but others can sure help… just ask.

Learn and grow…As long as a tree is alive, it keeps sinking its roots a little deeper and reaching its branches a little further (see Psalm 1).  Disciples don’t “graduate” until we die:). Disciples continue to learn from the Lord and grow in relationship with him and with each other.   We certainly aren’t “know-it-alls” and we strive to have a working knowledge of the Word of God. Disciples know Jesus and can articulate the basics of the Bible and what they believe (Acts 2.42 “they devoted themselves to the apostles teaching…”)

Serve… Disciples know and show that it is not “all about me.”  Mk 8.34-38 “Those who want to save their life will lose it…AND Mark 10.44-45 “I have not come to be served but to serve”…AND every epistle in NT.  There are lots and lots of ways we do this. In fact, disciples show that their whole life is one of service, on the job and off. 

Give… Disciples trust the Lord above all else.  They use God’s resources God’s way and for his glory… that’s called stewardship. To free us from our greedy selves and to open our hearts and purses, the Lord instructs us to tithe, to give back to him at least the first tenth of what he so generously gives us.  Malachi 3.8-9  AND, he actually wants us to do this cheerfully rather than begrudgingly:). II Corinthians 9.7

Love & tell others…Disciples then don’t sit in the corner like little Jack Horner.  We follow our Lord’s commission of us to love (I John 4.10-11; John 13.34-35) and tell others…to make disciples of all nations, baptizing them and teaching them all that he has commanded us.  (Genesis 12.1-3, Matthew 28.16-20, I Peter 3.14-15…and more.  “The need for articulating the gospel is so high and the confidence level of many Christians is so low.” – Bill Hybels in Becoming a Contagious Christian, p.49)

Regarding Sexuality & Marriage

God has told us what marriage is. The provision for marriage was made in the beginning told in Genesis: “Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.” (Genesis 2:18-25, ESV) This clearly means that God has ordained that marriage is between one man and one woman. This we believe. 

God has told us about our bodies and how we are to their treat them in our relationship with Him described by St. Paul at 1 Corinthians: “Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So, glorify God in your body.” (1 Cor. 6:19-20, ESV) Rejection of one’s biological sex is a rejection of the image in which God created that person. This clearly means that God intended the particular sex with which we are born and we are not to attempt to alter that sex, physically or emotionally. This we believe. 

God has told us that having sex outside of marriage is a violation of God’s law and is harmful to those who participate and we know also that such participation has a harmful affect on the lives of others. These truths are found in our Bible: “You shall not commit adultery” (Exodus 20:14 and Deuteronomy 5:18, ESV) and “Just as Sodom and Gomorrah and the surrounding cities, which likewise indulged in sexual immorality and pursued unnatural desire, serve as an example by undergoing a punishment of eternal fire.” (Jude 1:7, ESV) There are many additional references containing the same messages. (Galatians 5:19-21 and 1 Corinthians 6:18) This clearly means that God intends sexual intimacy to occur only between a man and a woman who are married to each other. (1 Corinthians 7:2-5; Hebrews 13:4) This we believe. 

God has told us that he knew us when we were in the womb. This assurance is found in Jeremiah: "Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, and before you were born I consecrated you; I appointed you a prophet to the nations”. (Jeremiah 1:5, ESV) Isaiah wrote “Listen to me, O coastlands, and give attention, you peoples from afar. The Lord called me from the womb, from the body of my mother he named my name”. (Isaiah 49:1, ESV) David tells us “Yet you are he who took me from the womb; you made me trust you at my mother’s breasts.” (Psalm 22:9, ESV) This clearly means that the child in the womb is a creation of God whose life is protected by the Fifth Commandment: “You shall not murder.” This we believe. 

We also believe that we must obey God rather than men. (Acts 5:29) We believe that in order to preserve the function and integrity of St. Paul Lutheran Church as the Body of Christ, and to provide a biblical role model to its members and the community, it is imperative that all members and all persons employed by St. Paul Lutheran Church in any capacity, or who serve as volunteers, agree to and abide by this Statement on Marriage and Sexuality. (Matthew 5:16; Philippians 2:14-16; 1 Thessalonians 5:22) We believe that God offers redemption and restoration to all who confess and forsake their sin, seeking His mercy and forgiveness through Jesus Christ. (Acts 2:3741; 3:19-21; Romans 10:9-10; 1 Corinthians 6:9-11)

Music

Sanctuary Choir - Jody Noblett, Director

WHO WE ARE:

The Sanctuary Choir is the primary adult choir for St. Paul's music program, providing traditional music for worship 2-3 times per month. (There are additional services during Advent, Christmas, Lent, and Easter in which the choir play a part.)

MEMBERSHIP:

The Sanctuary Choir is open to all who wish to sing.  No audition necessary.

REHEARSAL:

Wednesday evenings from 7:00-8:15 p.m.

"Voices of Faith" - Jody Noblett, Director

WHO WE ARE:

"Voices of Faith" is an auditioned group of adult singers who are also members of the Sanctuary Choir.  This group provides special music (traditional and contemporary) throughout the church year. (There are additional services during Advent, Christmas, Lent, and Easter in which the choir play a part)

MEMBERSHIP:

Auditions as necessary.

REHEARSAL:

Wednesday evenings following Sanctuary Choir rehearsal.

"Covenant" - Jody Noblett, Director

 

WHO WE ARE:

"Covenant" is a praise and worship band providing contemporary worship music during St. Paul's 10:30 blended worship service each Sunday. (There are additional services during Advent, Christmas, Lent, and Easter in which the choir play a part.)

MEMBERSHIP:

Membership in "Covenant" is based on an audition.  We are a small group which requires membersto lead worship in a dynamic, spirit-filled manner. (Contact Jody Noblett at   to schedule an audition)

REHEARSAL:

"Covenant" rehearses on Wednesday evenings from 6:00-7:00 p.m. as well as Sunday mornings from 9:30-10:00 a.m.)

 Alleluia Choir - Jody Noblett, Director

WHO WE ARE:

The Alleluia Choir is made up of children in grades 3-5.  The Alleluia Choir sings 6-8 times per year during St. Paul's 10:30 worship service. (There are additional services during Advent, Christmas, Lent, and Easter in which the choir play a part.)

MEMBERSHIP:

The Alleluia Choir is an non-auditioned choir in which all children grades 3-5 are welcome.

REHEARSAL:

The Alleluia Choir rehearses in the sanctuary each Sunday morning immediately following the 8:00 a.m. worship until 9:30 a.m.

Cherub Choir - Jody Noblett, Director

WHO ARE WE:

The Cherub Choir is made up of children ages 5yrs through 2nd grade.  The Cherub Choir sings 6-8 times per year during St. Paul's 10:30 worship service. (There are additional services during Advent, Christmas, Lent, and Easter in which the choir play a part.)

MEMBERSHIP:

The Cherub Choir is an non-auditioned choir in which all children ages 5 through 2nd grade are welcome.

REHEARSAL:

The Cherub Choir rehearses each Sunday morning from 10:00-10:20 a.m.

The "Messengers" - Tex Brown, Director

 

WHO WE ARE:

(Tex Brown, Paul Giese, Derek Krieger, and Jody Noblett) The "Messengers" is a men's gospel quartet which performs periodically throughout the church year.

MEMBERSHIP:

Membership is currently closed as this is a quartet.  Auditions for members will be held as needed.  We are a small group which requires members to lead worship in a dynamic, spirit-filled manner. (Contact Jody Noblett at   if you are interested in auditioning should a position become available.)

REHEARSAL:

The "Messengers" rehearses on Wednesday evenings immediately following Sanctuary choir rehearsal.

 Puppet Ministry 

WHO WE ARE:

The St. Paul Puppet ministry is a unique and engaging worship experience in which God’s word is presented through the use of hand puppets.  Each puppet is dressed to reflect characteristics of its school-age puppeteer or a particular theme.  The St. Paul puppet troupe performs throughout the community, including nursing homes, the annual Wassailfest in downtown New Braunfels, local club events, and other area churches.  Practice dates and times vary depending on scheduled performances. (There are additional services during Advent, Christmas, Lent, and Easter in which the puppets play a part.)

MEMBERSHIP:

Church members ages youth to adult are encouraged to contact Azeneth Knudson to be a part of this ministry.

REHEARSAL:

Rehearsal dates and times vary depending on scheduled performances.

Mimes - Diana Clayburne, Director

WHO WE ARE:

Combining Contemporary Worship music with hand movements, the ladies provide powerful, moving interpretations of God’s word.  The group performs during numerous church services and special functions throughout the year.  (There are additional services during Advent, Christmas, Lent, and Easter in which the mimes play a part.)

MEMBERSHIP:

The Mime Ministry is open to all young ladies in the 7th through 12th grades.

REHEARSAL:

The Mimes rehearse each Wednesday evening from 6:00-7:00 p.m. (Please contact the church office for more information)

Join Us

Here’s a simple, typical path to connection & discipleship at St. Paul:

Step 1.       Either the Holy Spirit or a person invites you to worship, Bible study, parenting class, or any other event sponsored by St. Paul.

Step 2.       You say to yourself “hey, that wasn’t that bad… Jesus might be tugging on me to learn more and follow him.”

Step 3.       Indicate your interest in learning more or in joining by marking this on the attendance card OR giving your name and contact information to the church office or any council representative.  Pray to the Lord to lead you… and know that we are praying for you as well.

Step 4.       Attend a Disciple Orientation course offered two or three times per year. 

Step 5.       Discipleship is a lifelong calling.  Keep growing your faith by engaging in worship, reading and studying the Bible daily,  praying, and finding opportunities to serve and to give from your heart, mind, and purse.  

 

This course focuses on what we believe & teach, on our heritage & history, on prayer, and on opportunities to connect and grow. Please bring your questions, as this is an opportunity for you to learn more about Jesus Christ, the Christian faith, and our congregation!  The course is our “New Member” course taught by Pastor Paul Owens and lay leaders.

If you are not yet baptized or not in the habit of worshipping the Lord each week, here’s one thing we know when it comes to change: sometimes folks “think” their way into new behavior…more often they “behave their way into new thinking”.  When you follow Jesus, you’ll notice him changing your habits, your head…and your heart. 

Jesus saw them following and asked, “What do you want?” They said, “Teacher, where are you staying?”  “Come,” he replied, “and you will see.”

 - John 1.38-39

Then Jesus came to them and said, “All authority in heaven and on earth has been given to me. 19 Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, 20 and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you. And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age.”

- Matthew 28.18-20

If you have any questions, please contact the church office at 830-625-9191. 

Families & Youth Ministry

The practical strategies we practice to help parents raise their children as lifelong followers of Jesus include:

Faith Stepping Stones: systematic, small group, short term-long haul courses for parents and their kids from birth through high school graduation.  Each mini-course is timed around a developmental milestone in your child’s life (and around hormonal changes in the lives of parents AND kids).  These include:

Raising a Healthy Baby: taught by Dr. Sarah Canion, MD., Stephen & Autumn Stehling, Chris and Melissa Ewald, and Pastor Paul Owens. Three (3) sessions on physical, emotional and spiritual needs of infants and their parents. Parents are also taught how to do a nightly blessing as a family faith practice. This class includes education for parents preparing to baptize their babies.

Raising a Healthy Preschooler: sponsored in partnership with our Preschool ministry; three (3) sessions on physical, emotional and spiritual needs of preschoolers and their parents. Parents are taught to add prayer to the nightly blessing as a faith practice. Teachers: Michelle Rivera, St. Paul Preschool Director; and Pastor Paul.

My Bible: a seven week Bible overview for parents and their third-graders. This course helps parents understand the Bible and integrates daily Bible reading into your home. Taught by Pastor Paul and lay teachers.

Holy Communion Instruction: a five week course for parents and 4th graders. This course covers from Passover to Lord’s Supper, with nightly confession and absolution added to the faith practices of Bible reading, Highs & Lows, prayer and blessing. Offered during Lent each year. Taught by Pastor Chip and lay teachers.

How to Survive Adolescence: this course for middle schoolers and their parents presents and integrates faithful practices that will help families successfully navigate the changing and sometimes tricky waters of the early teenage years.  Also introduces our ministry with middle school families. Taught by Pastor Chip and lay teachers.

Confirming my Faith: fall of ninth grade, four (4) sessions where youth and parents look at their confession, their confirmation, and their call. Taught by Pastor Chip and lay Teachers.

Graduation: three (3) sessions spread over the fall, winter, and spring where seniors and their parents look back on God’s blessings, look to the moment, and look to the future of their new callings. Taught by Corbee Wunderlich Executive Director for
Secondary Education at Comalisd.

Home devotions/Bible reading: we provide Egermeier’s Bible Story Book for any family that desires to use this excellent tool for Bible study fellowship at home and wherever you go.  We also provide online devotions, Portals of Prayer booklets, and other resources.  You can subscribe to Pastor Paul’s video and written daily devotion here.

Head 2 Heart Middle School Ministry: Sometimes the longest, most dangerous and wonderful journey can be the 18 inches from your head to your heart.  In the 7th and 8th grade years, we come alongside parents and offer a relational system that includes home Bible reading and prayer, small groups, loving adults and peers, Bible and theology and history and service and fellowship.  Our primary teachers are parents and loving, gifted adults and our curriculum is the Bible and Luther’s Small Catechism… with a multi-media, engaging delivery format.  If you’d like more information about getting from your head to your heart with Jesus, please email us with “Head 2 Heart” in the subject line.

Senior High Ministry:

Apologetics: wondering how you will stay or become a Christian in a world that can be adversarial to our faith in Jesus?  Our Sunday morning senior high sessions are focusing on why we believe what we believe… how science and the Bible contribute to our faith… and how we calmly, confidently state the case for what we believe.  For more information, please email us to send a request with “Senior High Ministry” in the subject line.

Remember the Alamo? Really. When it comes to youth and family ministry and Christian education, we encourage parents to do what those 183 men at the Alamo did when called on: step forward…. and strive to keep the promises they made before God when they baptized their children. You are the right ones for the job… and we’re happy to help you be the best parent you can be.

Serve in Our Congregation

Worship Ministry  Ed Berich

Acolytes

Altar Guild

Audio / Visual

Communion Preparer / Server

Greeter

Lay Minister

Pew Pals

Scripture Reader

Usher

Educational Ministry – Sue Schwab

Teach/work with Elementary Youth

Teach/work with Preschool Youth

Work with Vacation Bible School

Teach/work with Adults

Educational Ministry – Lynn Lear

Teach/work with 6th grade thru High School Youth

Music and Creative Arts Ministries – Jody Noblett

Sanctuary Choir

Covenant Band

The Messengers

Puppet Ministry

Mime Ministry 

Prayer Ministry

Friday Morning Prayer Group - Friday 7:00 a.m. - Roylene Haggard 

Prayer Chain - Jo Schomberg

Service Ministry

Coffee Crew- Cindy Orsak

SOS Food Bank- Hildy Slocum

Quilters - Tuesdays, 9:00 a.m. in Rm 212 - Betty Pankau

Stitch & Pray Crochet - Carol Schorn

Hospital Ministry - Nancy Becker

Eucharistic Ministry (Serving Communion to shut-ins & Nursing Homes) Kathy Quade

Sunshine Ministry (Making and delivering gifts & Cards for shut-ins) Liz Doss

Kitchen Angels (Delivering meals to those who have been in the hospital) – Roxy Duelm

Bereavement Ministry – Carol Schorn & Emily Harborth (Serving and setting up for Memorial Service Receptions & Bringing food for Memorial Service Reception)

Master Craftsmen - First Wednesday, 7:30 a.m., Men’s Group that meets at St. Martin's - Harold Voges

Wild Game Dinner Committee- Garth & Lance Bielke

Worship Outside Our Walls - Congregational Life

Administrative Projects & Tasks – Church Administrator  

 
Fellowship Ministry - Friends in Faith

Breaking Bread – meets in homes in small groups.  Contact Dotty Collins

Bridge Friends - meets 1st & 3rd Thurs., 1:00 p.m.  Contact Karen Krieg

Domino Friends - meets 4th Saturday, 7:00 p.m. Contact Janice & Larry Phillips

Benchmarks for Parents

The first step is daily Bible reading and prayers: one place to start is with Egermeier's Bible Story Book and Luther’s Morning Prayer and the Lord's Prayer.  Start when your children are infants, certainly before they reach age 2 or 3.  Infants are at the stage of faith development called Experienced Faith. In this stage, children observe the attitudes and faith practices of those around them and imitate them. Long before an infant is able to participate, they will benefit from being where faith practices are carried out. You can learn more about this in our “Raising a Healthy Baby/Baptism Course, the first of our eight Faith Stepping Stones courses (http://www.faithink.com/inkubators/stone1.asp).  Particular parts of your job now as parents include establishing a healthy bedtime routine with a blessing and establishing an every Sunday church habit.

The second step is simple, basic conversation at the supper table nightly... and be sure the television is off and cell phones are put away.  Mom or Dad, it is your job to lovingly fight for a family dinner hour.  When your children grow and learn to talk, then begin to ask and listen about the day.  By the time they are four or five, ask your children, "What was encouraging for you today?  And, what did you frustrate yourself over?" And listen to their response.  This will build their confidence, their ability to engage with people, and their ability to take responsibility for their own emotions.  As your children get older and enter school, keep asking these questions and keep listening… and begin to teach them to think critically and to continue to take responsibility for themselves and their emotions.  Open-ended questions like “tell me more about that” or “what are you thinking?” will deepen your relationship and will help them learn far more than questions that can simply be answered “yes” or “no.” 

Below are some grade level benchmarks for learning the basics of the Christian faith and the habits of a disciple (all of the benchmarks for first through fifth grades can be found in the handbook Martin Luther wrote for parents and congregations, the Small Catechism):

First grade: 10 Commandments with their explanations.  This helps each one know what God expects of us, what we are to do and not do.  The commandments are by nature down-to-earth and given to govern life in the family and the neighborhood.  As a parent, your favorite commandment will likely be number four.

Second grade: Apostles Creed with its explanations; this helps each one know what we believe and teach.  Also, second grade is time to learn the books of the Bible by heart.  If you are in church every Sunday singing the song, this comes easily.

3rd Grade: The explanations of the petitions of the Lord’s Prayer; this helps each one know the profound depth of the way Jesus teaches us to pray, what all he gives, and where to get the help we need to live with each other under God. Our “My Bible Faith Stepping Stone course” will equip your family with a working knowledge of the Bible and is offered for parents and their children in the fall of the Third grade year. (www.faithink.com/inkubators/stone4.asp)

Fourth grade: the sacraments, Baptism and Holy Communion.  Your children are now developing the ability for abstract thought… so learning more about these visible signs and acts given and done by a seemingly invisible Lord will be timely for them.  Our “Holy Communion Stepping Stone course” offered each year during Lent will help with this (www.faithink.com/inkubators/stone5.asp).

5th Grade: confession and absolution and the table of duties. Especially as adolescence will be coming on, your family will need to know how to tell right from wrong, how to forgive sin and retain sin (see John 20.21-22)… and each one will need clarification on what God expects of us and how neighbors are to live in his kingdom.

Middle school is time to deepen you and your children’s understanding of these basics and the Bible. Our “How to Survive Adolescence” Stepping Stone course and our Head to Heart Confirmation ministry are all about supporting you and your child through this stage of development. (www.faithink.com/inkubators/stone6.asp).

All along the way… Be sure to include routine acts of service for others. Again, our Head to Heart ministry and our congregation’s wider ministry and your own neighborhood provide plenty of opportunity for you to teach your children to serve their neighbor rather than just themselves.

High school is the time to focus on apologetics. During these years, build on the foundation laid when your children were younger and be sure your children are equipped to calmly, confidently, and with a sense of humor state their case for why they believe in Christ. Our senior high curriculum and mission trips focus on this.  When your children go off to college or enter the workforce, the world and the Devil will attack their faith.  By preparing them now, you will equip them to calmly, confidently withstand those attacks and to bear witness to Jesus Christ as their Lord and Savior. 

Hint: if you have read this and realize you are behind in helping your children reach these benchmarks, don’t panic or get angry.  Get on your knees, apologize, and ask the Lord and your children for forgiveness and for help.  Then start fresh today… the Lord will help you, just listen to him instead of yourself.

One more hint: when you take your children to college or help them move out, do your homework ahead of time and GO WITH THEM for at least a whole weekend and TAKE THEM TO CHURCH AND THEN OUT TO EAT AFTERWARD, be really nice to them and offer to pay for their Sunday lunch next week if they go to church on their own or with friends.